Memory is just the foundation of our experience of the present, not its totality; and the past is there to inform our response, not to get in the way. Psychotherapy helps us know our minds deeply and intimately enough, so that we can approach the present as it is, deal with novel situations on their own terms, and judge them on their own merits, with an appropriate balance between thoughtfulness and spontaneity.
“The true test of intelligence is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do”
– John Holt, “How Children Fail”, p. 271, 1982, Da Capo
“Psychotherapy consists in the paring away of all that stands between us, the props, masks, roles, lies, defences, anxieties, projections and introjections, in short, all the carry-overs from the past […] that we use by habit and collusion, wittingly or unwittingly, as our currency for relationship”
– Laing, R.D. , “The politics of experience”, p. 39, 1990, Penguin Books